I’ve been surfing around the different blogs and forums today and I’ve come across the concept of “Destroying Anxiety” over and over again.
I’m going to throw in my 2 cents on this because I spent WAY too long trying to eliminate anxiety.
See, my belief (and I think a lot of guys think this on some level) was that guys who were good somehow lost their anxiety. Like naturals didn’t have anxiety here and really great pick-up artists (PUAs) found a way to eliminate it, then they started getting good. So I say to myself, “Well, I have a lot of approach anxiety. I’m going to have to get rid of this, then I can start doing this stuff.”
It was a bad strategy. I spent WAY too much time on the sidelines, searching for a product that would “eliminate my anxiety”.
The only thing that really dramatically reduced my approach anxiety was repeatedly taking “right action” in spite of it.
That’s it. I would just approach in spite of my tremendous anxiety. And I did it again and again.
These days, I have no anxiety whatsoever unless the woman is extremely beautiful or is surrounded by big, rough looking guys. And soon enough, I’ll take action in spite of that and that anxiety will be gone too.
I’m just throwing this out there because I think we all have a tendency to over-complicate this stuff. Getting over approach anxiety really is that simple.
And yes, it’s uncomfortable.
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