Rest in peace, 2008. You were a great year. 
I want to take a moment and review some of the key personal experiences and insights that contributed to my learning in 2008. Some of these learnings were fresh insights that I had never had before. Others were things I had read about countless times, but didn’t truly understand until I had personal experience with them. Granted, I had more than 20 learnings in 2008, but these are the first 20 that came to mind, so they made the grade.
Here, in no particular order, are twenty realizations, epiphanies and learnings from 2008.
1. Thoughts are real forces. Every single thought has an effect.
2. Starting is the hardest part. Once I’ve started, taking action is much easier.
3. Never ever 
talk about game when I’m out “in the game”. Game now, analyze later. (This is why Legend and I never talk about this stuff when we’re out – we just have a good time.)
4. Drink plenty of water. Oatmeal, almonds and green tea are also fantastic to consume frequently.
5. Every choice I make determines the direction my next actions will go in. (A small action in the wrong direction can avalanche.)
6. My thoughts determine my personal vibration (my “vibe”). When I think great, positive thoughts about everyone, people get a “good vibe” from me. The thoughts I think matter far far more than my actions in a social setting.
7. For some people, there is no limit to what they will lie about.
8. Ruthlessly believe the reality I want to believe about myself, no matter how psychotic it mean seem at first. It will inevitably become real, eventually.
9. What’s arousing to women does not always look “pretty” or “nice” on the surface. However, everything I do and say can be from a genuine place of love and compassion. (Hence, using push and pull as a conversational technique.)
10. Women can act very convincingly that they do not like something, when they are in fact getting quite turned on. Pupil dilation taught me this.
11. When I have great success in a new area, it does not mean that I can stop practicing. Just because I can curl a 50 lb dumbbell does not mean you can stop. (I’m speaking metaphorically – I wish I could curl a 50 lb dumbbell.)
12. When I feel it’s time to physically escalate an interaction with a woman, I should act on that feeling immediately. The times I have, it has worked out wonderfully. The times I have not, the interaction evaporated.
13. If I don’t want to end up feeling attached to a girl, see more than one girl at a time.
14. Girls will still date me even though I am clearly not exclusive with them. In fact, it seems to make me more attractive in their eyes. (Some girls have even outright admitted this.)
15. When a girl messages me or friends me on Myspace/Facebook, she wants to hook up with me.
16. A daily yoga routine is outstanding for my own mental presence, handling set backs and maintaining a general sense of life being great.
17. Some girls really truly can be insane. But the majority are wonderful, practical and do have perspective when I treat them well (and I always try my best to.)
18. Sleeping with a bunch of women does not mean that I’m over an ex-girlfriend. I’m over a girl when I no longer entertain thoughts or heartache over her being gone.
19. Confidence really does make all the difference. Sometimes things looked pretty bad on the surface, but because I refused to believe anything other than that the woman was quite captivated and turned-on by me, she ended up taking on that reality herself in the end! I am continually amazed at the power holding an unwavering reality can have in my social interactions.
20. Giving value to people is the ultimate social currency. When I have the ability to give someone something of value to them, I will have social value in their eyes. That can be anything from being funny, to throwing parties, to simply connecting on an interesting topic.
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