Lately I’ve been thinking about what motivates us to take action versus what will stop us dead in our tracks. Further, I’ve been asking myself what is it that happens when we shift from one scenario to the other?
Ultimately, it’s the frame that we put on things. Which brings me to today’s subject: One man’s “rejection” is another man’s “success”.
I’ve noticed that there are some things that will happen in an interaction that will leave me feeling rejected. Yet, when they happen to Legend, he turns ON. A woman could give me some shit and collapse me, whereas if she gave Legend the same shit he would light right up!
What I’m realizing is that we feel rejected when the other person doesn’t reflect to us what WE want to see. It’s our own criteria that determines if it’s a rejection, not hers.
From this perspective it uncovers that if you feel that you can be “rejected”, then you still have a degree to which you are seeking validation. Speaking for myself, I know that I have some cleaning up to do in this area.
And the first step to cleaning it up is always becoming aware of it…
What kinds of things “trigger” you? Throw some comments up – my bet is that we’ll find that different men are triggered by different things.
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