Background:

When it comes to picking up/dating beautiful women, the majority of the focus is on how to meet a woman and hook up with her. There’s not a lot of focus on lifestyle as a whole, so I am hoping that I can contribute to an area that gets less attention but is still very important.

As some of you know, I made the decision to dive head first into learning how to succeed with women back in late April this year. I had been going out every Friday and Saturday with my wing, Legend, for about six weeks when everything clicked.

It was around that week that I began playing with push-pull energy. At that point that I started really getting results - for me, adding in that energy was key. For the most part, I have pretty extensively outlined my club pulls, same night lays, lay reports, pulling girls off Myspace/Facebook, etc. on the blog, so if you want to see how I met the girls, read the blog (namely the field report/lay report categories).

By the end of August, I had 6 girls that I could call on at anytime for whatever I wanted. I had set a goal earlier in the summer and I achieved it. A lot of guys have asked me, “How are you able to maintain all of these girls at once? Do they know about each other? etc. etc.”

I’m going to answer the common questions I’ve received so far… let me know if you have more and I’ll answer those too.

“How do you manage your mLTRs (multiple Long Term Relationships)?”

Well first, I don’t think of them as long term relationships. I don’t even label what’s going on between me and the woman, though I suppose the closest term to use would be multiple fuck-buddies (if you must label).

When I’m with the woman, 100% of my presence is there. When we are together, she gets all of me, my focus, my attention. Now before you all pounce on me or say “Oh my god, that’s supplication!!!”, shut the fuck up and listen for a second. What I am saying is that when I’m with her, I’m not in a foggy, distracted head space at all. I’m not doing something else mentally or physically. My focus is in the moment, enjoying the time and the energy we’re sharing. AND when we’re not together, we’re not together, so my attention is on the rest of my life. I think about her only when she’s with me.

The way I see it is that I am a man with tremendous value and I am giving her a great gift. This is not in an arrogant sense - what I am saying is that the value of her continuing to come to me is self-evident. So I am not doing things (like a dancing monkey) to continue to keep getting her to come back… I just know she’s going to come back because I am bringing all of myself to the moment when we’re together.

“When I tried having a harem, the girls eventually all started asking if I was seeing other women or saying that they felt like a booty call. What do you do about this?”

I had one girl do this. And only in one specific situation. I was at one of my favorite bars when she showed up there. Now, I was running around talking to all sorts of women that night. When she showed up out of the blue, I was caught off guard and felt like I was “caught red handed.” Now, the truth is that I really wasn’t doing anything wrong - I never promised anyone exclusivity.

Nevertheless, I still had the feeling of being caught with my hand in the cookie jar and that’s when the questions of that nature started up with her.

If she had just brought this up as a topic of conversation, I wouldn’t have missed a beat. But the fact that showed up unexpectedly and broke my natural flow was what knocked me off balance.

So what I take away from this experience as the most important lesson is that you will be tested here to the extent that you are uncomfortable about seeing other women. In other words, if you are totally and completely comfortable with seeing multiple women at once (as I am 99% of the time), then this isn’t a problem.

“What did you say when she asked you (if you were there to pick up women)?”

I tuned into her totally (just got a sense of where I was at and where she was at), smiled, leaned in, looking her right in the eyes and said, “Why? Are you afraid you won’t still be my favorite?” And I stuck with the tension of the moment… it was a fun, melting kind of energy I was sending towards her.. She laughed and hit me hard in the chest, “You’re SUCH an asshole…” Then I grabbed her and pulled her in (still smiling), “Yeah, you love it.” Then she kissed me.

Not bad, but better to always maintain the right energy in the first place. If you’re head is worrying about what she’ll think about you seeing other women, it definitely will become a problem.

In fact, it will become a problem not because you’re seeing other women, but because you’re distracted! Women can’t stand a distracted man and you will be punished accordingly.

Have any questions about mLTRs or harems? Let me know and I’ll post more on the subject.

Related posts:

1. Edge - Focus Game, Part 1
2. Edge - Lay Report - Post Party Promiscuity
3. Edge - The Law of Attraction (for Picking Up Hot Women)
4. Edge - Lay Reports: My Perspective on Lay Reports
5. Edge - Realizations and Experience

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