Edge – Learning Pick-up as a Path to Self-Mastery

When I approach learning to attract women and building my relationship/interpersonal skills, I approach it from a self-improvement standpoint, not from the standpoint of “getting ass”. Sure, it’s great to hook-up with women, no doubt. But, for me, that is just the beginning.

Learning to be better with women has motivated me to be a better man in every sense. I think that, from an outside perspective, it’s easy to look at the so-called “seduction community” as a bunch of horny guys looking to get into a woman’s pants by any means necessary. I believe that nothing could be further from the truth.

I think the majority of men exploring this material are men that truly want to have the best life and the best relationships possible. I have talked to countless men who have said that they are studying pick-up and seduction because they want to have a great marriage someday in the future. They want to be good fathers. They want to be great men.

And yet, society and culture in the Western world had little to offer, so men have come together and created material and a culture that works for them. Sure, not all the material is perfect. Sure, some of the material may put people off for one reason or another. But this is cultural evolution. This is the mass evolution of male consciousness, similar to massive cultural movements in the past (by women, by various ethnic groups, by social classes). Movements like these date back to ancient times. Think of the Magna Carte. Changes like these shape history for the better.

Personally, I have a greater consciousness of my own thoughts, motivations and aspirations because of my intent to become great in this area of life. It has inspired me to ask for more of myself and my life. To set bigger goals. To become a more understanding, considerate and worldly person.

On another note, a person may ask, “Well what about all of the women you ‘go through’ on your path to your own self-improvement? Isn’t this a little selfish?”

I would say no, absolutely not. Granted, I’m speaking for myself here, but when I am with a woman in any capacity, I do my best to give her something wonderful that will improve her life. Maybe it’s inspiration. Maybe it’s the feeling that she’s smart, or beautiful, or impressive, or special. Hell, maybe it’s just the experience of being with a secure man or maybe even just the experience of having amazing, mind-blowing sex. I am having enjoying myself and getting something out of it, but that definitely does not mean that I am not doing my best to give something great to the woman in return as well.

I think the fact that I feel I have a handle on this area of my life gives me the ability to give great gifts to women. If I was living in the paradigm of believing that I needed to “get lucky” with women or that hooking up with a woman was purely a game of chance, I do not believe I could give as many of the things that I can give presently. Feeling that I have this area handled gives me the feeling that anything is possible, that relationships with women are always available and that the real prize is creating something wonderful with a woman, not just sex in it of itself.

Thoughts?

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