Edge – Lay Reports: My Perspective on Lay Reports

I think one of the things that sets this site apart from the majority of sites in this area (aside from having ZERO advertising/marketing bullshit) is the number of lay reports on our site.

I want to share my perspective on why we put up the lay reports in the first place and dispel some of the assumptions people have come at me with:

Are you bragging? I could see how someone would get the impression that I’m bragging, but I can sincerely tell you that I have no desire or intention to brag about my sex life. I am put-off by other people who brag about “scoring with women”. Further, in my personal life I share very very little about my dating and sex life, even with those I am closest to… I just don’t think it’s something that needs to be discussed in a social context.

Oh, well are you a chauvinist? Most of the people who have a problem with me posting lay reports are women. Yet every woman I’ve ever known EVER has gone into great detail with her girlfriends about her sexual exploits with men. Great detail – more than any men’s locker room-esque conversation I’ve ever heard. There is no stigma in our society for women to freely discuss their sex lives with other women.

These days, women simply do not know what it is like to have a stigma attached to discussing sex among their peers. Wasn’t always this way, but now it’s perfectly acceptable for a woman to grab three magazines off the rack with SEX SEX SEX – RELATIONSHIP ADVICE written all over the cover.

Sure, women do have a stigma attached to being a “slut”, but that has little to do with men and everything to do with women trying to keep a woman “in her place” on the social ladder.

All I am trying to do is share my experiences and discuss these topics. There’s no reason a stigma should be attached to sex, for men or for women.

But it look like you’re “objectifying women”! Ah yes, there’s that buzz-phrase. Objectifying women.

In my journal entries about my experiences with women, I can definitely see how my writing about the women I’m with comes across as cold and calculating.

Truth is, in real life I’m a very warm, connected, real person. I have tremendous consideration for the woman that I’m with and for her feelings (sometimes to my deficit) and I certainly would never view another human being, man or woman, as an object. It’s important to me that both the woman and I have a great, unforgettable, amazing experience that we both look back on and feel good about.

If you’re so connected and caring, why all this focus on sex and ‘lay reports’ then? OK, well you have a point there.

I feel like I am selling our audience short by not really including how I am with women once they’re in my life. I post the lay reports because they illustrate how I met a woman and how the relationship turned into something romantic (as opposed to a “just friends” situation).

A lot of focus in the “seduction community” is on getting a woman into bed as quickly as possible. Personally, I could care less how quickly I get into bed with a woman – I know if there is a spark and we’re both attracted, it will happen eventually… there’s no hurry. But typically it happens quickly because frankly, we both really want it to… There’s a dance involved with it and I love the dance. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with that.

But after I’ve had that initial hook-up, I don’t just cast the girl aside. With just about every girl, we hang out and spend real quality time together. We go out to movies, dinners, events, bars, art shows, etc. We have fun together and enjoy life. I think that’s a great thing and I think spending time with a great girl is an amazing part of life… there’s way way more to being good with women than just sex. So I think I really need to write more about my lifestyle and what I do with women when we’re spending time together.

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