Here and there, people will talk about giving and taking value in social settings and interactions. In my last post, I wrote about how I’ve begun throwing house parties with my roommates as a way to meet women and give value to all of my guests. It works phenomenally.
But let’s step back and take a look at giving value as a concept. Giving value is basically the mere fact that if someone aligns with you in any sense, they will be closer to getting something they want than if they did not talk to you.
As a random example: by virtue of knowing someone like Hugh Hefner personally, you become a person who gives value to people when they align with you. The other people who align with you would be thinking on some level, “If he knows Hugh Hefner, then that means that I someday might get a trip to the Playboy mansion!”
Or if someone is really funny and crazy, people will want to align with them cause they think, “This person is so funny and crazy, I’ll be entertained and feel good when they’re around.”
Now granted, I don’t like to break human relationships down to something so cold and sterile. There’s much more to relationships than what people can get out of each other. However, I am bringing up this point because I think it is very important for all of us to realize: nobody wants to align with someone who only takes value.
A value taker is the douchebag who’s rude or shielded and feels the world owes him. He comes to your party is either a dick or withdrawn, drinks your alcohol and hits on everything in sight (usually quite unsuccessfully.) While just being able to help people get what they want is not enough for people to want you in their life, nobody wants someone who only takes and gives nothing!
Everyone has something to offer. I think it’s important that all of us get in touch with what we can offer to the world because it makes us more attractive. It makes people more likely to lower their shield and see who you really are, if you readily offer value to the people you align with.
Plus: People who offer value to others usually do because they have a ton of value to offer.
People who don’t… don’t. 
Or at least, that is the perception.
Unfortunately, I think there are many people in the “seduction community” that think of it more like the “suction community”, trying to suck the value out of everything, taking what they want without giving anything of value back. This won’t work!! People will unapologetically destroy outsiders who they feel are trying to get something out of them or their group.
Thoughts?
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