Edge – Focus Game, Part 2: Upping Your Game by Shifting Your Internal Focus

In the first post I made on what I call “focus game“, I advocated not focusing on elements that are not helpful to the overall conversation you are having with the woman. In this post, I am going to discuss some examples and ideas on empowering areas we can be focusing on to improve our overall success with women and people in general.

I think it is a fallacy to believe that what you are thinking is private.

I am not saying that other people can read your thoughts like a psychic, but I am a strong believer that people (especially women) can pick up the vibe of what you’re thinking.

And I believe the reasons for it are subtle, but concrete (not airy-fairy woo-woo stuff).

I think all thoughts have power.

I think that a single thought can very slightly change your tonality, your facial expression, your overall delivery… and women are biologically designed to decode all of these subtle transmissions, allowing them to infer the overall jist of what’s on your mind at any given moment. Granted, women may sometimes assert that you’re thinking something that you’re not (as part of a social strategy), but generally speaking, women are pretty savvy in the area of reading the effect your thoughts are having over you, which then allows them to infer what you probably are thinking about.

But there’s nothing wrong or bad about this. In fact, this can work massively to our advantage in being successful with women if we learn to think in an attractive way. I am going to outline how I practice cultivating a more and more attractive mindset, everyday.

1. Take responsibility for what you’re thinking.That is, stop thinking that your thoughts are meaningless little “nothings” that have no effect over you or how you come across.
2. Start thinking of the mind as a creation tool instead of a reflection or anticipation tool. Instead of reflecting on something that went bad or anticipating something going badly, focus only and exclusively on how you want things to go. Yes, it takes practice and discipline, but this is the only life and the only mind you’re going to get – you might as well use it in the most effective way possible.
3. Start thinking great thoughts of people. Giving thoughts. Thoughts about them getting what they want. It will make you come across as someone with “good vibes”.
4. Stop viewing women and people in general as means to an end.
   It definitely comes across when you look at someone in terms of how you can use them or what you can get from them (sex, validation, reassurance, etc.). I recommend focusing on mutual fun, pleasure, laughter, having a private bond between you and other pleasant things.
5. Acknowledge your own strengths and how you want to be. I think it’s very easy to reflect on things we’ve done wrong or where we’re lacking. I used to be a chronic negative thinker when it came to how I looked at myself. But now, I focus on my own greatness. I acknowledge my successes. I celebrate the way I intend to be in the world as if it were already real. And over time, I have found that my reality eventually becomes that vision (sometimes quite quickly).

My intent in writing this post is not to write an exhaustive list of every possible negative thought habit a person can have, but instead to inspire you to examine your thought habits in a useful way.

Let me know your thoughts - I know that thinking about thoughts can be a little “out there”, so let me know if what I wrote here resonated with you and makes sense

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