I think Opie & Anthony’s radio show is some of the best entertainment out there right now. And the reason that I’m bringing their show up here on Pick-up Evolution is that they coined a term that is essential to understand when it comes to picking up beautiful women.

The term? “Douche Chill”. The douche chill is the feeling you get when someone comes off sounding like a complete douche. Simple enough.

More specifically, it’s the creepy feeling you get when someone is saying something that’s phony, fake or sweetened. It’s the gut-feeling you get when you know someone is full of shit or when a movie plot is ripe with agenda. It is what the “seduction community” (guys who study picking up women like a science) calls incongruity. And it’s what certain subcultures call not being “real”.

In general, acting in a way that gives people douche chills is bad for your social dealings (people will not trust you and, by extension, won’t respect you), but it is MURDER to your romantic interactions.

Trust (and by extension, respect) is an essential part of being able to pick-up a woman. I’m not talking about having good intentions. We all have “good intentions”.

I’m talking about trust on that instinctual level, where you Read the rest of this entry »

Ever since the beginning of 2010, I have been dedicated to losing the fat that I semi-intentionally gained in my efforts to master “bulking up”.

As soon as I said good-bye to fast food, I very quickly realized that I needed to figure out how to cook.  Quite frankly, unseasoned chicken and broccoli gets pretty boring, pretty fast.

So when I started to learn to cook, I learned that black pepper and garlic powder can really punch up a variety of foods I already was eating.  So I was throwing garlic powder and black pepper on everything.

And you know what?  It worked… my food tasted better than it used to and I was able to get the result I wanted without a lot of extra effort or time invested.

But after a short while, everything I ate tasted like some variation of pepper and garlic.  I had one cooking strategy that worked, but it was only going to take me so far.  And there were some foods that could be made much better with different seasonings that I hadn’t experimented with.

On the other hand, there were hundreds of options out there that I could try and frankly, I didn’t have the time or the patience to figure them all out.  Moreover, I would flip out if I worked hard to make something only to end up destroying it by seasoning it wrong or putting on too much seasoning.

So I did the most intelligent thing I could think of:  I turned to the internet.  And once I was on the internet, I did the second most intelligent thing I could think of:  I sought out people who were already great at doing what I wanted to be doing and studied their “recipes” for success.

(If anyone hasn’t recognized that this is a thinly-veiled metaphor for learning to pick-up / seduce women better, then let me assure you that this is what it is…)

Now over the past 6-7 weeks, I have been Read the rest of this entry »

It feels good to be posting again.  I’m super busy these days, but I wanted to share a story on here that is very relevant to getting real success with picking up women.

Like I said, I’ve been busy.  And while I’ve been busy, I had taken on some bad eating habits and stopped going to the gym.  As you can imagine, I gained some weight.

Growing up, I was always a skinny kid.  And I mean skinny – I wanted to put on muscle but I didn’t know how and anything I ate burned to vapor the second it hit my stomach (I know that might sound great to some people, but being a lanky, skinny kid isn’t exactly a picnic either.)

In 2005, I had read up on how to gain a lot of muscle.  And I mean, I went all out – I read tons of information about nutrition, fitness, exercise, etc.  I followed the “bulking” diet to the letter.

I was confident in the reading that I had done and I followed my program religiously.  I ate every meal at the time I was supposed to, I measured out all the food exactly as it should have been and I worked out HARD, just like the program prescribed.

Fact was, I wanted the results of being a bigger, muscular guy, so I was willing to put in the serious time and effort.

How did it work out? Well, Read the rest of this entry »

Of course we do. We just want to be able to make the choice to have sex.

Speaking for myself, as a woman, I like sex. It’s fun and it feels good. What’s not to like. Women definitely want sex just as much as men.

I will be honest and tell you that I am a good girl who used to be very prude when I was younger. The reason i was so prude was that I was uncomfortable. Uncomfortable with boys, my body and myself. Not a good combo if I ever wanted to have a mind blowing sex life.

When I was 18 I went backpacking and safely kissed my way up the east coast until I met a very special guy who totally broke me out of my shell.

The first time we were making out he said to me “I want you to be comfortable. If I do anything that makes you nervous or uncomfortable, just slap my hand and I will stop.” I can tell you there was no hand slapping and I got very comfortable. The reason for this was because I felt that I was in charge of my sexuality. I was getting to make the choice and that alone put me at ease.

Women want sex. W Read the rest of this entry »

For gross generalizations purposes I think people fall into 3 different categories and I am going to rant about it.

Different types:

1.  Anything is possible and I am going to keep pursuing what ever I want until I get it.  If it doesn’t work and I get knocked down, face rejection, I stand up brush off my shoulders and carry on. Over and over again, no matter what!!

2.  Then there are the people who have big dreams and goals but when they face rejection or difficulty, they crumble and shrink back.  They are always waiting for the perfect time and plan to take action again so they don’t have to suffer failure.  Not taking that class or following through on the work that it really takes to succeed.  Instead they complain that they don’t get it but never want to put the time and work in to achieve their goals.

3.  Then there is the type of person who thinks that nothing can work and basically the world is out to get them.  The ones that think life sucks and there is not point because “bad shit happens to good people.” The ones that don’t bother to try but complain about their shitty life all the time.

Honestly I am fed up and I am talking the gloves off.   I am not going to sugar coat my opinions and placate to anyone so if you don’t like my twisted version of reality don’t read my stuff.

For me success and achieving your goals all comes down to having a positive out look and being willing to try over and over again in the face of rejection.

Fuck rejection, IT DOES NOT MATTER.

Fuck failure, IF SOMETHING DOESN’T WORK TRY SOMETHING ELSE.

Fuck the fact that it takes a lot of work, DO OR DON’T BUT STOP WASTING YOUR AND MY TIME IF YOU DON’T WANT TO DO WHAT IT TAKES.

How do you expect to get anywhere in life if you don’t try and fail and try again.   Try again a thousand times or a million times.  What ever it takes,  that is my mentality.

Winston Churchill failed sixth grade. He was subsequently defeated in every election for public office until he became Prime Minister at the age of 62. He later wrote, “Never give in, never give in, never, never, never, never – in nothing, great or small, large or petty – never give in except to convictions of honor and good sense. Never, Never, Never, Never give up.” (his capitals, mind you)

The older I get the more Read the rest of this entry »

I was having a conversation with some guys about the seduction community this past Saturday night.

These were guys that had read up on a bunch of material, read “The Game”, etc.  We were sharing our thoughts on the techniques mentioned in that book and a lot of the techniques that have come and gone in the seduction community.

I want to make a comment about the seduction community and how it came to be.  The seduction community started out during the late 80’s/early 90’s.  Feminism was rampant and the pendulum of political correctness had swung WAAAY over to an almost anti-male sentiment.  I feel like there are still some lingering after-effects of that time even today, but for the most part, the era of extreme male bashing and feminazism has past.

Still, it was during that time that Speed Seduction came to be.  In fact, as Neil Strauss mentions in “The Game”, that was also the time when the internet was beginning to form.  It didn’t look like the internet we know today, but nerdy kids like me can remember the days of BBS (Bulletin Board Systems), Echo-mail and Newsgroups.

This atmosphere helped form a cohesion among men wanting to improve their skills with women.  Think about it.  Men were afraid to speak frankly about wanting to be successful Read the rest of this entry »