Archive for the “Technique” Category

Today I’m going to visit a topic that a lot of guys who study pick-up talk about: being the AMOG (Alpha male of the group) or AMOGing (establishing yourself as the alpha male of the group).

There’s plenty of reasons this topic gets a lot of attention. For one, a lot of guys get into learning pick-up because they read “The Game” and they loved the imagery of ex-nerds stealing the girlfriends of the popular/attractive guys and muscly jerks. Moreover, there is nothing worse than some asshole coming along and making you look stupid in front of a bunch of hot women. On top of that, there’s the simple fact that women are inherently attracted to the leader archetype - the guy who calls the shots and answers to no one.

Now when you get right down to it, I … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I was talking with Legend recently and we were in a discussion about sticking points, motivation and momentum in the realm of picking up women and general self-improvement.

Every choice we make is not just a single event in a vacuum. No, every choice we make sets the direction of our momentum.

As Legend has said, the more you do something, the more you will WANT to continue doing that thing. Just to set the context, this applies to things that you know you should do to progress towards our goals, but just haven’t been doing.

Amidst the hashing, we started talking about how if we choose the good action and at least start, we’re able to keep going with it, without problem. At the same time, if we choose something counter to what will get us to our goal (e.g. playing a video game instead of going out, surfing Facebook instead of studying how to improve … [Click Here to Read Post] »

One of my favorite concepts in self-improvement and seduction is the concept of frames. I think that frames and beliefs are closely intertwined, so I decided to post about them together.

When I think of the concept of frames and beliefs, I think of Richard Bandler (co-founder of NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming), Ross Jeffries (founder of Speed Seduction) and Swinggcat (writer of Real World Seduction). These are the guys that I feel taught me the most about frames and they deserve credit for their work.

What I want to talk about today is a recent thought I had about frames and beliefs.

See, it’s not uncommon for people … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Two topics we regularly visit on this journal are discipline and taking action.  And with New Years just around the corner, I think all of can benefit from the feeling of a fresh start.

Why do we return to talking about these things again and again? It’s because I don’t get skills or progress from reading about them. I get them from taking continuous, consistent action until it’s drilled into my mind as a well-practiced part of me.

Sure, I can get enthusiastic and inspired. Those are great things to feel. But if I do not take action and endure the temporary pain of whatever it is, I will not make progress or move forward. If it wasn’t uncomfortable or painful to me in some way, I would have already done whatever it is I haven’t done yet!

In any self-improvement venture, … [Click Here to Read Post] »

As a PUA, making the first approach is the hardest part of the outing. I think an important quality to use in any pickup is momentum. From my experiences, the more that you do, the more you want to do. At the same time, when you get on a roll you can build huge amounts of social power within yourself. You start feeling like you can do anything.

I find that when working, working out, gaming, and anything in life the more that you do the more you want to do. It’s a weird phenomenon, but it is one that works and we should use it to our advantage. I know that I have talked about it before but I want to hammer the point home over and over again in my mind. In the last three days, I’ve been blasting away at my theory on the foundational building blocks to success. I’ve been developing … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Recently one of our readers sent me a message asking how we balance our jobs with learning to improve with women. I work a 9-5 while still going out and experimenting with pick-up artist / seduction material.

I sent him a personal response and promised him that I would expand on it in the blog. Here are some excerpts from my response to him as well as some expansions:

This is what Legend and I have been doing since we started up in mid-April. Every Friday and Saturday night, no matter what, is our night to go out on the town. No excuses - sickness, weather, tiredness are never an excuse. We force ourselves out every weekend and we always stay out until at least … [Click Here to Read Post] »

It’s going to be those cold, dark winter months soon. Generally speaking, a lot of people tend to feel “down” in the wintertime. Sluggish, moody, lethargic, sad, etc. I have been one of those people, but in recent years it has been better. Let’s talk about some of the things I do to counteract the wintertime effect.

• 5-HTP: Most people have heard of the neurotransmitter, serotonin. Basically it’s one of the chemicals in our brain that makes us feel happy and well. It is a mood regulator.5-HTP is the chemical precursor to serotonin. And melatonin (which regulates your body’s sleep schedule) is the precursor to 5-HTP.So why am I sharing this here? Because as the days get shorter and it for more of our waking hours, our bodies release more melatonin to regulate our sleeping patterns. Since there is less melatonin available, our bodies will not be able to make as much 5-HTP. And with less 5-HTP available, our bodies will have less serotonin available than during … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Getting stuff done is important. I think a problem that a lot of people have, especially me, is starting a task and then before finishing it starting a different one. I find that I will come up with many different ideas and that I will want to pursue all of them. Really I should just keep an ongoing list without starting on them. Only once I have finished with the tasks that I’m already in the process of doing.

This is all about prioritizing what is important. It’s a basic life skill that I think we don’t talk about and we were never taught. Sometimes I think we can forget what we should focus on. It is a basic business principle that when you come up with an idea, take it immediately and you start taking action. You run with it all the way to completion or until you run into the ground and it doesn’t work.

I think it’s good to work on a few things at a time so that you have a diversity and variety but at the same time do not concentrate on too many things because you are then liable to spread your attention so thin that nothing will ever get done. Lately I have selected three things: … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Creating routine reminder cards to use in field is a little trick that I want to do. It’s one of those things I think a lot of people mention, but don’t do. I find that when you’re actually out approaching, but you are in a situation where you’re in a bind you sometimes forget the simplest things. Maybe your state drops or maybe something happens there that really rattles you and you are not in a conversational mode anymore. Then basically you really feel like you have nothing to say, but in reality you do. I want something to eliminate that problem.

There are two parts to this. One is when you can’t approach and the other one is when you don’t know what to say. I want to create a little pocket-sized card that has reminders for me. Reminders of the stories I use and short funny things I like to say. For some reason my brain just doesn’t think of these things when I am out if the night is going badly.

One will … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I’ve been thinking about this and moving toward something where I can create and use my identity as a way to attract women. I think its extremely powerful and truthful. Not many people do this. Woman are attracted to you and are going to form relationships with you. If you haven’t read this read it.

by Mystery

Mystery on Building an Identity

I read an article recently by my good buddy Thundercat that said:

“But what Mystery does, though teachable, is very much a style tailored to Mystery. He is successful at what he does because no one else can really imitate him. That’s what makes Tyler so amazing to observe. Tyler does the same things as Mystery, but WITHOUT the magic tricks. Yet he is still able to create IMMENSE value for himself. How does he do this? Well, from what I’ve gathered, his method is more relatable to normal guys like me, because anyone with the proper skillset can use Tyler’s methods to create value for themselves.”

Thundercat’s misunderstanding … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I know that everyone talks about motivation, but I think it’s important to touch on it over and over again. I think it’s important to have it right in front of your face, literally.

I find that the more I do, the more I want to do. On the other side, I find that the less I do, the less I want to do. As in anything in life, I think that we need to build momentum, which allows us to do more things. I started this project about 10 days ago and in all honestly I could have been done by now, but I am not. When I work, I work solid, but starting is the hardest part. After starting, we can all build up momentum and push forward.

I think a huge key to being motivated in any area is … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Pick-up instruction and dating advice is not one size fits all - the instruction you subscribe to needs to be targeted toward someone with your personality and your characteristics.

I just finished reading a newsletter from one of the numerous dating/pick-up/seduction instructors out there (one that I like, actually). He was talking about how he worked on his style, confidence and humor and as a result, women loved him… but only as a friend.

Then with his easy-to-use method of sparking sexual connections, it completed the puzzle and now he has abundant sex.

Fair enough, I could believe that. But it sparked a thought - most people who get really good and develop their own products market the “antidote” to their dating woes. In other words, they sucked before, then they found what they needed to work on (the antidote), worked on it, then had success.

As a result, … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Background:

When it comes to picking up/dating beautiful women, the majority of the focus is on how to meet a woman and hook up with her. There’s not a lot of focus on lifestyle as a whole, so I am hoping that I can contribute to an area that gets less attention but is still very important.

As some of you know, I made the decision to dive head first into learning how to succeed with women back in late April this year. I had been going out every Friday and Saturday with my wing, Legend, for about six weeks when everything clicked.

It was around that week that I began playing with push-pull energy. At that point that I started really getting results - for me, adding in that energy was key. For the most part, I have pretty extensively … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Here and there, people will talk about giving and taking value in social settings and interactions. In my last post, I wrote about how I’ve begun throwing house parties with my roommates as a way to meet women and give value to all of my guests. It works phenomenally.

But let’s step back and take a look at giving value as a concept. Giving value is basically the mere fact that if someone aligns with you in any sense, they will be closer to getting something they want than if they did not talk to you.

As a random example: by virtue of knowing someone like Hugh Hefner personally, you become a person who gives value to people when they align with you. The other people who align with you would be thinking on some level, “If he knows Hugh Hefner, then that means that I someday might get a trip to the Playboy mansion!”

Or if someone is really funny and crazy, people will want to align with them cause they think, “This person is so funny and crazy, I’ll be entertained and feel good when they’re around.”

Now granted, I don’t like to break human relationships down to something so cold and sterile. There’s much more … [Click Here to Read Post] »

People have asked me in different forums: What should a pick-up artist / PUA do at a house party?

If you’ve been listening to Legend and my audio journals of our nights, we’ve mentioned we’ve been throwing parties lately. And I have to say, house parties are a great way to hook up and build a network.

Let me go through some reasons why hosting a house party is a superior way to hook up with the women you want:

1) You invite the crowd. The guys, the girls. Everyone.
2) With Facebook and Myspace, you can add a massive … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Having attraction from the whole room before opening a set is a good goal to strive toward. This has become more apparent to me in the last couple weeks as Edge and I have played with different venues in the surrounding area. There is a huge difference when we talk in the higher energy down town bars and club environments verses towny and college areas.

Downtown in a fast environment, it is much harder to get pre-attraction from the whole room. If you look at a smaller college bar where the people are all dressed sloppy and you walk in as a rock star or in a suit immediately you are above everyone. You can talk louder then them after practicing in a much louder environment. People look at you like you are important and in your head you feel it. I think a lot of it is … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Lets talk breaking out of society.

“Normal people don’t approach strangers.” This has been beaten into our heads from a young age.

“Don’t worry the future will hold the answers.” Over and over again the deferred life plan.

“We will all grow up to be rock stars and celebrities.” This has been Americas motto.

“If you are mediocre, you will get the girl of your dreams.” Hollywood movies.

Fuck That!!!!!!!!

Basically you don’t have to do anything and one day you will get everything that you desire. What a shaft. Think about it: we have been raised to be fat, lazy sheep. A society of viewers not actors. What I want from myself and from all of you is action. We will get nowhere spectating. I get a lot of this from TD’s Blueprint, but I think it cannot be stressed enough and I have been thinking about it lately. You can spectate or create action and be the one everyone is watching.

Take the reigns … [Click Here to Read Post] »

This is my new key to creating motivation on the fly in the field. Think of it as snapping and really pushing yourself to another degree. Tim talks about feeding his fury in the Flawless Natural DVDs. This is my take on it as I’ve developed over the past few weeks.

Not being satisfied with anything less then what you deserve.

Not accepting anything less then what you want.

Pushing the limits.

When I had a failure that should have worked I throw it on my internal fire. I can feel the adrenaline right now in the middle of my chest exploding just thinking about the other night when I had fuck up after fuck up but then it propelled me to approach a two girls. One of the girls … [Click Here to Read Post] »

This is a key concept that I feel is grossly over looked. Juggler talks about it breifly but I think he is the only one. This was made glaringly obvious to me the other day when we were attacked by the group of hot Russian girls.

Girls are looking for stimulation. They want you to lead and they want you to be the party. They don’t want to be the party they want to be let into the party. Leading me to my escalation window. When you are running your game a window will be presented by the girl and you have to step through it and … [Click Here to Read Post] »

After talking to Edge the other day we came to a small conclusion that everything in an interaction is either pushing or pulling. Whether it be a blatant “push pull” line or something more elaborate, everything falls into the act of either pulling the person toward you or pushing them away.

This could be put into terms such as a neg, tease, or disqualification as a push. Well on the other hand pulling them in with a complement or story.

This in itself sends mixed signals to a woman which will build attraction when done right. Another benefit is that it always keeps them on their toes. Notice this has to be calibrated per person and … [Click Here to Read Post] »