Ever since the beginning of 2010, I have been dedicated to losing the fat that I semi-intentionally gained in my efforts to master “bulking up”.

As soon as I said good-bye to fast food, I very quickly realized that I needed to figure out how to cook.  Quite frankly, unseasoned chicken and broccoli gets pretty boring, pretty fast.

So when I started to learn to cook, I learned that black pepper and garlic powder can really punch up a variety of foods I already was eating.  So I was throwing garlic powder and black pepper on everything.

And you know what?  It worked… my food tasted better than it used to and I was able to get the result I wanted without a lot of extra effort or time invested.

But after a short while, everything I ate tasted like some variation of pepper and garlic.  I had one cooking strategy that worked, but it was only going to take me so far.  And there were some foods that could be made much better with different seasonings that I hadn’t experimented with.

On the other hand, there were hundreds of options out there that I could try and frankly, I didn’t have the time or the patience to figure them all out.  Moreover, I would flip out if I worked hard to make something only to end up destroying it by seasoning it wrong or putting on too much seasoning.

So I did the most intelligent thing I could think of:  I turned to the internet.  And once I was on the internet, I did the second most intelligent thing I could think of:  I sought out people who were already great at doing what I wanted to be doing and studied their “recipes” for success.

(If anyone hasn’t recognized that this is a thinly-veiled metaphor for learning to pick-up / seduce women better, then let me assure you that this is what it is…)

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Like I said… I am committed to writing about real stuff on this blog and this post is kind of difficult to write about for me.

I was really depressed for a while up until recently. I was riding high for a while – I was really on top of my life, taking on a lot of projects, being really productive.  I was fulfilled in many respects since I felt like I was doing things that mattered and I was accomplishing things that were meaningful to me.

On the flip side of things, I was obsessed with my work and my pursuit of success. I had a relationship at the time and I really didn’t feel motivated to go out and be social.  “What’s the point,” I thought, “I would rather keep working on what I’m doing.  I’m not looking to meet girls – I’ve got one.  I don’t feel like conversing with a bunch of drunk people.  I’d rather just keep working and moving myself forward.”

Now, I knew I was isolating myself, but I really didn’t care all that much.  I loved the feeling of being productive and doing things to develop my career and my future.

All the meanwhile, Legend kept saying, “You need to take breaks, man.  You need to balance out your life.”

And I would say, I know, I know, you’re right.  But I didn’t – I dumped everything else other than work.  I stopped exercising, stopped eating healthy food, stopped doing anything for entertainment (other than watching a movie or a TV show at the end of the night when I saw my girlfriend), stopped doing yoga.

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I’ve learned a lot this year. I’ve watched many products on pickup and I’ve gone out religiously every weekend. I’ve learned that studying in a book or at a seminar will teach you almost nothing without experience to apply the theory to. I have pushed myself farther than ever before and looking back on it now I’ve done things that a year ago I wouldn’t think was possible.

I think that it is important to look back on what you have actually achieved. For me, I seem to achieve something and then hurry on to the next task. I think for the sake of positive reinforcement that I am actually evolving, I should reflect on what I’ve done well from time to time. Focusing purely on the positive.

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Rest in peace, 2008.  You were a great year. 

I want to take a moment and review some of the key personal experiences and insights that contributed to my learning in 2008.  Some of these learnings were fresh insights that I had never had before.  Others were things I had read about countless times, but didn’t truly understand until I had personal experience with them.  Granted, I had more than 20 learnings in 2008, but these are the first 20 that came to mind, so they made the grade.

Here, in no particular order, are twenty realizations, epiphanies and learnings from 2008.

1.  Thoughts are real forces.  Every single thought has an effect.

2.  Starting is the hardest part.  Once I’ve started, taking action is much easier.

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I recently mentioned how I went through some of my old posts and saw that the tone of some of my posts came across as arrogance (which was definitely not what I was going for in posting).

Which brings me to the question: What separates arrogance from playful cockiness?

Some of the things I said that were off putting were along the lines of, “Of course I succeeded – why wouldn’t I?” or “… and then I did this to her and then I did this to her…” Things like that. Now, I’m exagerating it a bit for the purpose of this discussion, but some of it really did sound that obnoxious and I was totally unaware how it came across as I was writing it.

What made it arrogant was that I was kind of implying that I am flawless and that everything comes easy to me. I think that playful cockiness is about expectations, whereas arrogance is about beliefs about one’s self. Arrogance has a feeling of “I am better than you” whereas cockiness has a feeling of “I expect great things and I’m not ashamed to say it.”

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One of the advantages in journaling my experiences as I learn to improve my skills with women is that I can reflect back on what I’ve written.

Today I went through some of my older entries and cleaned up the tone and presentation a bit. See, I believe that this blog’s value to others comes from the fact that Legend and I put it all out there, raw, for everyone to see and hopefully to learn from.

At the same time, in going through my old posts I noticed that the tone in a few specific sections came across as arrogant and falsely confident

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