Archive for the “Inner Game” Category

Years ago, I was in bad shape. People these days love to throw around the “D” word (depression), but we’ll just say that I was miserable and felt helpless and hopeless to improve my situation.

These days I am so far from experiencing those feelings that I honestly feel like I am a different person. I think that it is important that I share how I got out of my funk on this website. I would love to help anyone out there who’s experienced (or experiencing) very deep pain, extreme hopelessness or a feeling of utter helplessness.

Here are three beliefs that really messed me up for a long … [Click Here to Read Post] »

It’s going to be those cold, dark winter months soon. Generally speaking, a lot of people tend to feel “down” in the wintertime. Sluggish, moody, lethargic, sad, etc. I have been one of those people, but in recent years it has been better. Let’s talk about some of the things I do to counteract the wintertime effect.

• 5-HTP: Most people have heard of the neurotransmitter, serotonin. Basically it’s one of the chemicals in our brain that makes us feel happy and well. It is a mood regulator.5-HTP is the chemical precursor to serotonin. And melatonin (which regulates your body’s sleep schedule) is the precursor to 5-HTP.So why am I sharing this here? Because as the days get shorter and it for more of our waking hours, our bodies release more melatonin to regulate our sleeping patterns. Since there is less melatonin available, our bodies will not be able to make as much 5-HTP. And with less 5-HTP available, our bodies will have less serotonin available than during … [Click Here to Read Post] »

If someone is talking in your native language, you can’t not understand them. You can’t not interpret the words they’re saying. Once you understand the language, your brain automatically will decode and interpret it - you do not have a choice or an on/off switch.

But that’s just language. When you see a picture of something, you can’t not interpret what it is a picture of… if you see a picture of a human face, you will recognize it as such. It is automatic.

Let’s take this further. If you are listening to music that evokes a certain emotion or that speaks to a certain … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Embracing rejection is a key concept I haven’t fully wrapped my head around, but I want to. I find myself being able to open almost anything, except the girls I really really want. If it’s an easy set and there won’t be a blow out I will go for it. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve had no problem doing mixed sets and doing frankly whatever I want except the ones that I really am super attracted to. I think this stems from not having an abundance mindset because every night I go out it seems like there is only one girl all night that I really really want.

The problem with this is that I don’t practice going after the one I want because I’m afraid that it won’t work, but in reality it will never work if I don’t try. This is clearly only an internal struggle with myself that I must overcome and master. I am in it to get the best. Bar none.

No one can do this for me, just like I cannot do it for any of you. In the end, we must all face our own demons. No one can do it for us. We have to come to terms with this and accept it because I know that many people chase a magic pill, but in reality much of this can all be bypassed.

We have to level for ourselves, … [Click Here to Read Post] »

There’s a truth about our minds: As long as we are alive, our brains are on.

Even while we’re asleep, our minds are still on and (to a degree) receptive. Even in comas our brains have a degree of awareness and receptivity.

And when we’re conscious, we have a constant stream of thought.

I believe that thoughts have power. No matter how minimal or dispersed, I believe that every single thought that we have has power. I also believe that our minds will align our actions, behaviors and habits to bring us into contact with what we think about the most. Not what we want the most, but what we think about the most.

I have taken on a new habit because of this. My new habit is to … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Everyone has been talking a lot about “natural game”, but I am going to poke fun at it as Edge would say. I have talked to a lot of people about it recently and all they seem to say is just do it. But when questioned further about how to do it no one can seem to come up with a concrete example except you should already be doing it. Plain and simple just do it. All in all I’ve just been doing it for a while and it doesn’t work that way.

You can’t create something out of nothing, you need a game plan. I think a lot of the community has gone natural as a marketing gimmick and as a way to fix a routine junkie. I think if you’ve been practicing routines for years, it becomes natural as long as you’re not still reciting word for word.

I want to take a look back at routine-based game and how it really works. I want to take the best of the natural mentality and combine it with a strong natural routine-based game. I I think that to create a routine-based game that is natural we can look at Mystery. Many people trash him … [Click Here to Read Post] »

For those of you who’ve been following me this month, you have read my post about my “Presence Experiment”. To recap: I am using yoga and my attention to create an attractive, effortless presence. (I like the idea of having women attracted to me without having to open my mouth.)

Today, I am adding another experiment to my repertoire. The intent of this experiment is simple: increase my testosterone levels in a natural, maintainable way.

“But Edge, what about practicing seduction techniques? What about working on your inner game? Isn’t the whole point … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Lately I’ve been thinking about what motivates us to take action versus what will stop us dead in our tracks. Further, I’ve been asking myself what is it that happens when we shift from one scenario to the other?

Ultimately, it’s the frame that we put on things. Which brings me to today’s subject: One man’s “rejection” is another man’s “success”.

I’ve noticed that there are some things that will happen in an interaction that will leave me feeling rejected. Yet, when they happen to Legend, he turns ON. A woman could … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I just got off the phone with a good buddy of mine. I was telling him about how lately I’ve been working with presence and awareness in my interactions.

I told him that when I was out in public and really being present to the moment, I noticed a tension in my solar plexus, followed by and sort of sinking feeling behind my eyes then a tightening of my throat.

He has a good knowledge of mind-body stuff and knows me pretty well. He said, “Well first, that feeling in your solar plexus is anxiety. You know you’ve got what you need, you know what you need to know. When you’re out in the instances where you feel this, stop doubting yourself and just GO.”

Truth is, I didn’t even feel this tightness a feel weeks ago. It was … [Click Here to Read Post] »

It’s been said before by other self-help experts: To compare leads to despair.

It’s a sobering thought. I made the commitment to really mastering this area of my life 4.5 months ago. In some areas, massive improvement. In other areas, I have actually formed bad habits that work against me.

What do you do when you see a bad thought or habit? You weed it out!

One of the reasons I started this website is to let guys see my humanity in learning this stuff. I think it is equally helpful for men to see ways that other men deal with setbacks as it is to share what has worked. If you’re reading this website, it is because … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I’m finding that your attention and focus can have a tremendous impact on the entire interaction. I want to talk a little about something I call “focus game” and how I believe it can be used to improve your skills with women / dating.

I am chatting with a girl on Friday in a bar, when all of a sudden, some local radio station starts up a contest and begins loudly announcing their crap. I turn and look at the announcer and then turn back to the girl I was talking to. I noticed she was facing the announcers and then returned to me as soon as I started talking again.

At this moment, I thought to myself, “This radio stuff is going to keep going on. I don’t want her to … [Click Here to Read Post] »

One of the hot topics in popular psychology today is the “law of attraction.” The Law of Attraction states that what you focus on will manifest into your reality. John Kehoe (Mind Power) says that in the law of attraction, “thoughts that are emotionalized become magnetized and attract similar and like thoughts.”

Jerry and Esther Hicks make a distinction about focus and what we attract into our lives. They recommend that you NEVER focus on wanting something, but instead live through the feeling of having what it is you want. This will highly increase the number of opportunities you get to have that certain something - when the opportunity comes up, you take action.

How does this relate to picking up beautiful women? Well, lately I’ve noticed the more that I have been going out to become better with … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I want to be great at picking up beautiful women. I want to be great at inner game, outer game, natural game, seduction, etc.

So I read a lot on the subject. And not just courses/books- I sift through forums, blogs, newsletters and just about anywhere else pick-up is discussed.

I always cringe when I come across the “all-you-need-is” post. We’ll call it an AYNIP (since the seduction community loves acronyms.)

AYNIPs are written by one of two types of posters: either a guy who might have some limited experience with women but knows nothing about structured game OR … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Biggest reason for it? I’m having lots of sex… so I’m not trying as hard to push my limits and maintain things that are working well to forward my game.

I think a lot of guys have some success in practicing pick-up / seduction, but then stop persuing it because they either a) get sloppy and lose their discipline, b) get a girlfriend … [Click Here to Read Post] »

It’s been a little over 13 weeks since Legend and I started going and I have had tremendous success so far. I don’t want to get into all the details, but let’s just say that I have met many wonderful women and have had some pretty great experiences so far. So people are starting to ask me what routines and such I’ve been doing to be successful…

I think what is more important is WHO is the person “doing” the pick up. How do I live through my life? Yeah, technique and actions are important to talk about. I think it’s essential to talk about who I am now – the person I’ve grown into.

When I am at my best (and, in turn, when my interactions go the best), I am being … [Click Here to Read Post] »