Many times people talk about studying picking extensively and having it bring them to a dark place or they get burnt out from doing it.   I think its extremely important to look at why this happens so it doesn’t happen to you.

Some people as they become more and more successful start to realize that no matter how many women you have sex with, it isn’t making you happy its not the answer.  You started out with this grand goal of being able to go out to a bar or club and seduce beautiful women.

After practicing extensively you achieve that goal, you start to have more and more success, but then realize that having more women in your life is not the answer.  The same old depression and sadness hits and you don’t know why.  This is the trap many guys who get good with this stuff fall into.

The reason for this is that studying pick-up and quite frankly doing anything from a perspective of lack of will lead to this path.  If you are doing it because you never got it or if you are trying to fill a hole in your life with women then no matter how many women you bed, still that hole will remain.

The need and lack of is a terrible way reason to do something.  The negative motivation that you put on yourself can only carry you so far until the negative snap back effect appears.  Then you lose your drive and will to go forward and find yourself stuck back at the beginning again.  Still wanting even with your new found ability.

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I decided I’m going to start posting again here with some consistency.

Where did I go? What was I doing for the past… hmm… almost 7 months that kept me off of regularly posting here.

Well, as some of you may have noticed, I have had some changes of heart about the concepts that are most prevalent in the seduction / PUA / pick-up artist community. Some of you balked at what I had to say, some of you agreed and some of you said, “Quit whining… If you don’t like it, change it!” And I said I would and I will keep that promise.

Even still, it took me a while to reconcile how I was going to do it. And in many ways, thinking about picking up women or seduction was the furthest thing from my mind.

Since the beginning of the year, I’ve been in a relationship. Not an open relationship. Not a relationship for show or for ego-gratification (like someone to praise me or to role-play some fantasy or to take care of me.) I was in the relationship because I cared deeply for the girl and she cared deeply for me.

We had ups, we had downs, we had things we needed to overcome. Maybe I will get into it at some point here, maybe I won’t.

Point is, during this time I started taking on big projects in other areas of my life. Projects that are meaningful to me and pretty massive in terms of what I am aiming to accomplish.

And when I started to deeply commit to pursuing my projects, I discovered Read the rest of this entry »

The decision to change my life was a relatively simple one and it only took half a second at a time.

Choice. Everything in life boils down to a choice. Everything. Perhaps on a level we aren’t even aware of. Sometimes it’s a single choice but more often it’s a series of many choices.

A holding pattern develops when we aren’t conscious of the choices we make on a moment to moment basis. We act in ways that don’t benefit us and we develop ineffective behaviors and strategies, never realizing that somewhere in our process lies a place to decide something different. We continue acting the way we do and we never get anywhere in lives. We stay in a holding pattern.

Because we are thinking so fast, we act on our immediate thoughts and never question what we are doing or why we are doing it. We act and behave according to the choices we unconsciously make, never knowing we are in a holding pattern.

There’s a way to change this though…

We change it by becoming conscious..

of our thoughts…

from moment…

to moment.

Can you see the perfect you? The person who would never do that behavior?

Can you feel what it’s like to be that person? Are they confident and totally in control of their life?

What would that person say to you? What would they tell you to do?

We all know the wonderful things that happen when we accomplish something. Our mind begins to build the image of or new future and our lives begin to change in ways we couldn’t have imagined. We build new neurological pathways inside our brain.

Realizing we have other options gives us choice and enables us to break free from our holding patterns. How often do you question your behavior? How often are you making the right choice? Read the rest of this entry »

This post is a culmination of my past and recent events which caused me to take a cold hard look and save myself from a downward spiral.

Your brain is an amazing tool, the only downside is that when you were born you weren’t given an instruction manual on how to operate it. On top of that, you were conditioned from birth, by factors out of your control which left you wired in a certain way. Your entire life has been lead based on the parameters of this wiring. I say fuck that! Choose to rewire yourself the way you want to be. To feel the way you want to feel.

It’s sad that most people have chosen to allow their emotional states to be dictated by the opinions of others. In this case what you are really doing is saying that your own opinions don’t mean shit compared to the opinions of strangers. This leads to neediness, lack of enjoyment of life, a never ending urge for people to like you and need to please the whims of others.

Guess what my friend. YOU are living YOUR life not these other people you are randomly meeting. In your mind, the most important person in your world should be YOU. If it isn’t, then you are living a false life there lies your problem. If you truly believed that your opinion of yourself is more important than what another person thinks of you some awesome things will happen.

1. You wouldn’t blow yourself out of set as much.
2. Your demeanor what you present to the world would be different.
3. People would be responding to you different. Read the rest of this entry »

It’s been a while since I’ve posted here. It’s been pretty crazy in my world and I haven’t been able to properly contribute the way I’ve wanted to. So, I wanted to come back with something great that you guys can use right after you finish reading this.

As I am watching the movie Pride, it made me think about your pursuit. In your pursuit of being better with women and becoming a better man, you need to build a foundation of pride, determination and resilience.

• Stand by Me ipod

Pride.

• 21 Grams dvd

It is the firm feeling of pure satisfaction from your own achievements or from qualities that are widely appreciated. Take some pride in yourself and what you are looking to accomplish here. Your pride should one of the main things motivating you to push through your comfort zone and become successful in life and with women.

Think about it.

How much pleasure do you get when Read the rest of this entry »