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Mystery’s approach to gaming is very inspiring. One of the major elements to his game that I want to integrate into myself is the ability to think of everything as practice. Somehow to detach my ego from each individual interaction.

If you look at everything scientifically, almost like a social experiment, you can remove the rejection element. I believe in fully embracing rejection on one side, but at the same time there must be a way to look at everything as just practice. Get rid of the whole rejection frame. This will allow us to really go after the girl that we really want. We are all here to develop a skill set. Once I integrate this, everything will be much easier. I believe the key to it is … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I hit this some time ago but I wanted to get it up here.  I think that losing pickup skill can be common.  I feel that going backward in your development is sometimes part of forward development.  I think it is a common occurrence that no one wants to talk about. This has been on the back burner for a while but I want to finish writing it and get it out there so hopefully it can help some of you guys and I can make sense of it myself.

For a long time I was doing really well. I had a solid structure and a solid path and had it in my mind of what to do. It was almost as if I was climbing a mountain and had reached the first Peak. I looked out over all that I had accomplished and then went about undoing everything good I had just accomplished.  When I look back and think what went through my subconscious mind is I don’t need to be working … [Click Here to Read Post] »

As a PUA, making the first approach is the hardest part of the outing. I think an important quality to use in any pickup is momentum. From my experiences, the more that you do, the more you want to do. At the same time, when you get on a roll you can build huge amounts of social power within yourself. You start feeling like you can do anything.

I find that when working, working out, gaming, and anything in life the more that you do the more you want to do. It’s a weird phenomenon, but it is one that works and we should use it to our advantage. I know that I have talked about it before but I want to hammer the point home over and over again in my mind. In the last three days, I’ve been blasting away at my theory on the foundational building blocks to success. I’ve been developing … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Getting stuff done is important. I think a problem that a lot of people have, especially me, is starting a task and then before finishing it starting a different one. I find that I will come up with many different ideas and that I will want to pursue all of them. Really I should just keep an ongoing list without starting on them. Only once I have finished with the tasks that I’m already in the process of doing.

This is all about prioritizing what is important. It’s a basic life skill that I think we don’t talk about and we were never taught. Sometimes I think we can forget what we should focus on. It is a basic business principle that when you come up with an idea, take it immediately and you start taking action. You run with it all the way to completion or until you run into the ground and it doesn’t work.

I think it’s good to work on a few things at a time so that you have a diversity and variety but at the same time do not concentrate on too many things because you are then liable to spread your attention so thin that nothing will ever get done. Lately I have selected three things: … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Creating routine reminder cards to use in field is a little trick that I want to do. It’s one of those things I think a lot of people mention, but don’t do. I find that when you’re actually out approaching, but you are in a situation where you’re in a bind you sometimes forget the simplest things. Maybe your state drops or maybe something happens there that really rattles you and you are not in a conversational mode anymore. Then basically you really feel like you have nothing to say, but in reality you do. I want something to eliminate that problem.

There are two parts to this. One is when you can’t approach and the other one is when you don’t know what to say. I want to create a little pocket-sized card that has reminders for me. Reminders of the stories I use and short funny things I like to say. For some reason my brain just doesn’t think of these things when I am out if the night is going badly.

One will … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Embracing rejection is a key concept I haven’t fully wrapped my head around, but I want to. I find myself being able to open almost anything, except the girls I really really want. If it’s an easy set and there won’t be a blow out I will go for it. In the past couple of weeks, I’ve had no problem doing mixed sets and doing frankly whatever I want except the ones that I really am super attracted to. I think this stems from not having an abundance mindset because every night I go out it seems like there is only one girl all night that I really really want.

The problem with this is that I don’t practice going after the one I want because I’m afraid that it won’t work, but in reality it will never work if I don’t try. This is clearly only an internal struggle with myself that I must overcome and master. I am in it to get the best. Bar none.

No one can do this for me, just like I cannot do it for any of you. In the end, we must all face our own demons. No one can do it for us. We have to come to terms with this and accept it because I know that many people chase a magic pill, but in reality much of this can all be bypassed.

We have to level for ourselves, … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I’ve been thinking about this and moving toward something where I can create and use my identity as a way to attract women. I think its extremely powerful and truthful. Not many people do this. Woman are attracted to you and are going to form relationships with you. If you haven’t read this read it.

by Mystery

Mystery on Building an Identity

I read an article recently by my good buddy Thundercat that said:

“But what Mystery does, though teachable, is very much a style tailored to Mystery. He is successful at what he does because no one else can really imitate him. That’s what makes Tyler so amazing to observe. Tyler does the same things as Mystery, but WITHOUT the magic tricks. Yet he is still able to create IMMENSE value for himself. How does he do this? Well, from what I’ve gathered, his method is more relatable to normal guys like me, because anyone with the proper skillset can use Tyler’s methods to create value for themselves.”

Thundercat’s misunderstanding … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I’ve been running back to the fundamental points lately in my mind. This is because we had so much success in the early months and then I hit a giant plateau. I believe many people are stuck in different forms of plateaus.

Then I tried a different approach, starting at the beginning again and I think I went backwards in my development. Sometimes you have to to figure out what works and what doesn’t. A trick that my mind plays on itself is “once you have something handled you don’t have to do it anymore”, which is completely not true.

I compare this to working out at a gym. Once you can curl 50 pounds, it’s not OK to stop because if you stopped doing it and then try to pick up 50 pounds a month later without working out in that time you will not be able to.

This is the concept … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I love how everyone these days is all “natural.” This is very funny how a lot of new guys in the community preach natural without having anything to back it up.

Sure its great to be natural but how?

This is the question they always can’t answer. Don’t get me wrong, I haven’t talked to everyone, but after talking to a senior instructor from a well-known pickup company the other week I came to the conclusion that he was absolutely full of shit. It’s pretty easy once you go into field a lot to tell who has real-world skill … [Click Here to Read Post] »

I know that everyone talks about motivation, but I think it’s important to touch on it over and over again. I think it’s important to have it right in front of your face, literally.

I find that the more I do, the more I want to do. On the other side, I find that the less I do, the less I want to do. As in anything in life, I think that we need to build momentum, which allows us to do more things. I started this project about 10 days ago and in all honestly I could have been done by now, but I am not. When I work, I work solid, but starting is the hardest part. After starting, we can all build up momentum and push forward.

I think a huge key to being motivated in any area is … [Click Here to Read Post] »

It all started on a rainy Sunday. You know the ones that you are tell yourself that its not even worth going out on, but boy was I wrong. Every night has potential now in my book despite the rain and an off night it can still be good.

The weather was crappy and there were only a few people at the bar so it stated out as more of boys night out just chilling. I am sitting at a table chilling with my old high school friend when these two hot Asian girls walk in and stand next to the bar. I get my “I should approach adventurous feeling” inside, so I get up to get more drinks and walk over next to them.

They are both a little shorter then me one of them is super hot even though she is dressed down in jeans (HBAA) about 5′5″ and a 110 lbs real skinny with decent sized breasts for an Asian girl. The other one looks like she would be good if … [Click Here to Read Post] »

How do you face your fears?

I wish I had the answer.

As a man we have to face our fears and above all in this game face uncertainty. We have to become comfortable with uncertainty and going with our instincts. I believe that this is a core, fundamental value to every man. Until you do this, I believe that you will still be a child in a man’s body.

This takes a strong will and a dedicated individual. I do not believe that this is easy. It is what separates us, the spectators and the people who take action, the leaders and the followers. There is an old saying that the people who know how always work for the people that know why. I believe that in this game everything rests on why because if you’re reading this you already know how. It just comes down to the question: “I am man enough?”

I think that really boils down to why.

This is purely an inner game topic. This is the point where … [Click Here to Read Post] »

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I think that fear is something important and I want to talk about it.

With the girls that I want the most, the approach still scares me. I know that once I go I will bring all of my skills to the table, but lately the initial jump has been too hard on certain groups where I am really attracted to a girl.

I think it comes down to a fear of screwing it up. I have to look at it with … [Click Here to Read Post] »

What we focus on will define all of our interactions. As I have become better and better with every week of practice, I find it is harder to detach myself from an outcome. The irony in all of this is that going out and doing this in itself is a paradox. You have to each have faith in yourself, but at the same time not put demands on yourself. But even still you have to take action. If you don’t expect anything from yourself, then you open the door to trying new things. This is a current sticking point I am working through.

For me it’s easier to open sets and test out new things if I don’t hold in my head that I am good at anything, even if sometimes I’m very good. This is a mental trick that I do to not experience approach anxiety, but not necessarily the end solution. I really need to get back and think about the long process and end game, not just worry about the here and now.

I believe the most important part … [Click Here to Read Post] »

When learning this stuff it’s very important not to concentrate on how to do it, but just to it. The new philosophy of just being natural is something very difficult to wrap your head around. I think it has more to do with the act of embracing the unknown. You take techniques and instead of over-thinking it to get a desired outcome, you really have to just try it out and try it out again until you figure out how to make it work.

This is a process that is truly a paradox. There are always two opposing sides to everything and you can’t have one without the other. I think that routine style with techniques is just one-side of the spectrum where natural game is the other side of the spectrum. I think we truly want to be right in the middle. Having … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Everyone has been talking a lot about “natural game”, but I am going to poke fun at it as Edge would say. I have talked to a lot of people about it recently and all they seem to say is just do it. But when questioned further about how to do it no one can seem to come up with a concrete example except you should already be doing it. Plain and simple just do it. All in all I’ve just been doing it for a while and it doesn’t work that way.

You can’t create something out of nothing, you need a game plan. I think a lot of the community has gone natural as a marketing gimmick and as a way to fix a routine junkie. I think if you’ve been practicing routines for years, it becomes natural as long as you’re not still reciting word for word.

I want to take a look back at routine-based game and how it really works. I want to take the best of the natural mentality and combine it with a strong natural routine-based game. I I think that to create a routine-based game that is natural we can look at Mystery. Many people trash him … [Click Here to Read Post] »

In this world of information overload, the mind is always searching for an answer. The problem with the seduction community is that everyone thinks there is an answer. I find myself going into my head thinking what to do in a certain situation that I haven’t experienced before. In reality even though my brain searches for an answer, I cannot have an answer because I have not experienced it before. This is the hurdle that plagues us all, the uncertainty of an outcome.

The problem is this is a vicious loop. You cannot know the answer without first trying. My mind wants to search for an answer before trying, but in reality you have to try. This requires a great effort to breakout of the vicious loop. The more you learn, the more you think that you know and it traps you in the cycle of analyzation. I think the reason I was able to make so much progress in the beginning months was that I consciously knew nothing. Now that I think that I know certain things, my brain tries to fit everything into that reality when really I should just be concentrating on … [Click Here to Read Post] »

Having attraction from the whole room before opening a set is a good goal to strive toward. This has become more apparent to me in the last couple weeks as Edge and I have played with different venues in the surrounding area. There is a huge difference when we talk in the higher energy down town bars and club environments verses towny and college areas.

Downtown in a fast environment, it is much harder to get pre-attraction from the whole room. If you look at a smaller college bar where the people are all dressed sloppy and you walk in as a rock star or in a suit immediately you are above everyone. You can talk louder then them after practicing in a much louder environment. People look at you like you are important and in your head you feel it. I think a lot of it is … [Click Here to Read Post] »

There is a lot of time in the day, but at the same time so little. Let’s talk getting productive. This in itself is the core of self-help. Keeping motivation levels up to inspire us to be . The main problem as I see it, everyone looks for the easy way out, the next pill, but in reality everything isn’t as hard as you make it out to be. It just takes way longer then you might think.

As a person I find I get into ruts. Say working or the lack there of. Doing less work breeds doing less work. Your mind and body finds ways to be lazy when it’s in an unproductive stage. On the flip side when you are producing and working it becomes easier to continue on then to stop.

Bing! Right there: Momentum. This is a hugely under talked about thing in the self-help community. First, we need dreams and things to aspire to. Next we need motivation and ways to keep our motivation. Things that constantly, remind us of what we want and how to get there. Next the momentum. This is a key that I don’t think Edge … [Click Here to Read Post] »