Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 25

Rapport

The key to creating a powerful connection is really making the other person feel it.  Not just talking about something but to really feel a powerful feeling inside of them. This feeling of connection is a surefire way to create a powerful connection. The old Speed Seduction rule of going first is extremely important here when connecting with girls.  If you want to have someone feel a powerful connection with you then you need to connect and get excited about something for yourself before they can get excited.

As I went out more and more, I noticed that the girls that I would connect with the best where the ones where we ended up talking about things that were really important to me. Things like friends, family, and my work.  When it came down to it I really was talking about my Passions in life.  If you start talking about things that really get you amped up and excited then whoever you are talking to is going to get amped up and excited.  Feelings are contagious.  If you can create amazing powerful good feelings in yourself then the girl that you are talking to will catch those feelings and start feeling them.  They will then associate the feelings they are getting with you.

Passions

I have found that to really get amped up and excited Read the rest of this entry »

Rapport gives us the potential for creating long lasting, synergistic relationships, but can also be misused. Rapport is a tool much in the same way that a hammer is. Just as a scalpel can be used to heal or to hurt, utilize it to heal. You must use rapport to heal or it will come around and bite you in the ass and you will not succeed in your goals. The best thing you can do is to use rapport in an ethical way to benefit all involved.

Use these techniques to create win-win, synergistic relationships.

BREAKING DOWN COMMUNICATION

55% of communication is physiology, otherwise known as body language, and 38% is in ones voice; tonality, tempo, timbre & volume specifically. The other 7% is the words that you use. Since body language is an often talked about subject in the community, and tonality is pretty much common sense to all of us, I’ll be talking specifically about how you can make the MOST out of this last little piece of the puzzle.

What Words Are Comprised Of

There are 4 key parts we have after we break down the last 7% of communication. Words are made up of predicates, key words, common experiences and content chunks. I’ll be focusing on each part and also providing some other explanations of things that will be helpful to you in understanding how to utilize these techniques.

Let’s begin, shall we?

PREDICATES

Predicate: the word is defined as the part of a sentence or clause containing a verb and stating something about the subject. In NLP, the predicates people use often clue you in to their Representational System.

Ok, TIME OUT!

What is a Representational System, you ask?

Representational Systems

There are 4 basic types of people:

1. Primarily Visual

2. Primarily Kinesthetic

3. Primarily Auditory

4. Primarily Auditory Digital

Allow me to explain about these types of people real quick.

How people learn, memorize and communicate fall into these 4 Representational Systems:

1. Visual – by looking, seeing and visualizing

2. Kinesthetic – by touching, feeling and doing

3. Auditory – by listening and hearing

4. Auditory Digital – using logic, understanding and strategy

There are ways for you to train yourself to easily spot each type of person, but that is beyond the scope of this post.

Now that I’ve gotten that out of the way, let’s get back to predicates.

Before the quick background info, we agreed that the definition of predicate was basically a verb. Now let me explain what the importance of them actually is.

The verbs that people use when they speak often dictate what type of Representational System they prefer.

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Becoming a Pickup Artist – A Core-Skills Guide to Game by Pick-Up Evolution

Part 24

Push Pull

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The Push Pull Dynamic

When I am in an interaction I like to slot everything that I can possible say and do into 2 categories.  One element of the interaction is always either a Push or a Pull. Basically where in the first instance you can say or do something that pushes someone away from you and in the second instance you can say something or do something that will pull a person toward you.   As with anything these are two polar opposites where a pull is on one end of the spectrum and push is on the other end.  Think Mr. Nice guy on one end and Mr. Dick head on the other end.  With any conversation I believe that a good balance is essential.  You need to be able to go to either end of the spectrum and pull it back with good calibration.

Push

Would be any comment or action in a pushing manor.  As if you are pushing someone away.  For example any form of teasing or not fully answering someone’s questions.   Leaving a sort of mystery about yourself or doing a take away.  Basically anything that will get them working for you.  This includes all forms of breaking in rapport.

Pull

On the flip side pull would be giving value, complements, and creating rapport.  Think positive statements and things that bring people together. Smiles and positive touching as well are pulls.

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What’s Worked For Me

Most girls at rock shows are what I call ‘coat racks’, because they’re holding their boyfriends jacket or whatever. Most of them aren’t really into the band. They are typically NOT worth gaming because they are babysitting for their baggage.

Then there are some girls that are there for the band; some of these girls have bf’s there, some don’t. The bf’s who are there generally aren’t into the band but they make sure they ‘display ownership’ of their female.

There aren’t usually a lot of single girls at metal shows.

There are different methods for different size venues. I’ll start with the small ones.

SMALL VENUES – Attendance 100-500

It’s usually best to go to rock/indie rock shows because band members girlfriends will bring their friends to the show, and they’ll be groups of girls around the venue. They typically go out to smoke a lot (something I hate) but it’s a chance to talk to them without the interruption of shitty music. (I’ve heard hundreds and hundreds and hundreds of local bands in my time.. I actually like less than 5 of them.)

It’s not like night game at a club either, you work the room differently. Make a first pass through and get to know everyone who’s there, figure out who’s single and who’s not, and who’s there with who. Run enough attraction so they want to continue talking but leave on the high point. I never run kino at this point either. Ever.

Sometimes you can connect with a girl if she’s rocking out to the band by pretending to be into them too. I usually leave those moments alone and connect with them again later when we can talk.

After you’ve got a target picked out, run comfort during the set changes, contact close and kino if you’re hitting it off. Don’t go for a kiss or a make out because it makes things weird.

You can only move girls a few places: Bar, in front of stage, table, outside. Sometimes you can move her somewhere to eat close by, but unless she’s been drinking or you have really, really tight game and she’s really really into, you’re not going to be leaving the club with her and you’re better off setting up a Day 2. Bathroom pulls are close to nil because of the size of the place and her friends are 20 feet away from the stall.

MEDIUM VENUES – Attendance = 1000 – 2000

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