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Part 19: Qualification
What is qualification?
Qualification is a mechanism that will allow you to do two things. The first is that it will verbally set up a screening frame where you can show that you have standards that you want a girl to live up to. This will begin to create a frame where you are challenging the girl and she has to live up to your expectations. It will build investment and compliance through screening questions.
The second use of qualification is to test for compliance. Using screening questions you can easily see how invested a girl is in you by how much she will comply with your qualification. If you qualify a girl on something simple like ‘can you cook’ and she doesn’t have enough attraction to answer you then you know you need to run more attraction. If you try to move her or try to qualify her on what her passions and she wont answer you know your not in a rapport stage yet and you need more attraction. If you try to sexually qualify her and she won’t comply you know you need more comfort and rapport before she will comply to your sexual screening. If she is complying to your sexual screening then you know you can move directly to a close.
Using qualification to figure out how much compliance you have is the best way to quickly move forward in the set.
Using qualification
I think its extremely important to start using qualification very early in any interaction. Start of simple using simple Read the rest of this entry »
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Part 18: Framing and Frames
What are frames
Definition:
Framing is the basis to every aspect of your game. Framing is basically having the right attitude or perspective while interacting with women, which is very important. It is how you view the interaction and it is the underlying context to the interaction. One of our strategies is going to be intentionally choosing the most strategic viewpoint and attitude to use at different stages of the interaction.
In any communication, there are all communications, facial expressions and body language that is neutral. Sometimes these things do have a motive or intention and that motive or intention might be clear or ambiguous. Our minds have an urge to give meaning to everything. Frames are powerful because they are the lens you look through to determine the meaning of an these elements of an interaction. Frames tend to become self-fulfilling prophecies.
For example, someone who believes he is well-liked may interpret a rude comment toward him as if it were a joke and laugh about it. His response is likeable and his belief that he is well liked becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy – he looks through the belief that people like him and so he responds in a likeable way.
Another person who believes he is disliked by everyone may interpret that same rude comment as a cutting personal attack and fly into a fit of rage. His response repels people and it too completes the self-fulfilling prophecy.
Same rude comment, two different interpretations because they were viewed through two different lenses.
Frames are powerful because they cause people to interpret the many ambiguous and neutral things that happen during an interaction. Most people do not hold powerful frames, so they are likely to go along with any strong frame presented to them if their actions are ambiguous. The result is that by holding useful, powerful frames that serve us in an interaction, women are likely to go right along with them.
Put differently – if we know how to create self-fulfilling prophecies, we should create positive self-fulfilling prophecies.
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Part 17: Sticking Points
What are sticking points:
A sticking point is going to be any part of your game that repeatedly seems to not be working. A lot of people just starting in game have a sticking point where they can’t open. Then they move on to the sticking point of transitioning or contact closing.
Sticking points can appear in many different places in your game. Plateaus in game are also a common occurrence. I see that many people in the community hit a certain skill level and then they stop developing. This could be known as a plateau in game. I think that plateaus and sticking points are basically the same. They have similar symptoms in that you are not improving and getting better results. I think that the same tactics that help avoid sticking points and removing sticking points works exactly the same with plateaus.
Dealing with Sticking points:
If you have gone out a lot or even if you are just starting to study pick-up I am sure that some of you have hit small or large sticking points that are inhibiting your game development. Breaking these sticking points and plateaus comes down to Read the rest of this entry »
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Part 16: Taking a Look at Where You Are
What you should be able to accomplish with what you’ve learned
Within the first 15 articles I believe that you have enough information if you consistently practice it you can get a lot of girls. You may not get the really super hot ones without more advanced (not Dance.. Only dance if you want to haha) techniques but if you’re looking for a girlfriend or your going to be overwhelmed by tons of techniques focus on the first 15 parts until you get good at it. I believe we all need a foundational social skill set before we can use the more advanced techniques. I’ve given you everything you need to get a girlfriend so far. Once you’re comfortable with starting conversations with strangers and connecting with them and getting her number then you are halfway there. We talked about dealing with the phone and dealing with dates. Once you get that down, you throw in escalation and you are all set. The following articles are going to really focus in on specific skills which will really sky rocket your results but you need a basic skill first. Being able to have a conversation with someone at a good basic level if not better before you can implement the advanced tactics. I like to keep things simple because if you try to do too much at once I feel that you will never get anywhere.
Next lessons are more advanced and will give you a leg up but they are not necessary to get laid or to get a girl friend
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I’ve been a little slow with updates lately. I’ve been having a crazy last couple of weeks putting the final touches on our first book which is going to be a 31 chapter step by step guide to getting game. I am really excited about it as we here a PUE put you the best content that will get you results with out over complicating thing. I always have found simple is better.
My little brother just graduated high school so there has been a lot of family time visiting and grilling. Anyway get on the list becuase we will be giving away the book for free to our loyal readers once its finalized.
You guys can help us out by going to www.alexa.com and installing their tool bar. Even better if you really want to help us out you can set our site to come up first when you turn on your browser. That way we can record all the traffic and get more content and more guest bloggers on here.
Have a great week guys and girls.
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Part 15: IOI’s and IOD’s
Legend:
What are Indicators of Interest
In the community there are a number of indicators of interest. These are specific things that some pick-up artists believe are cues that the girl is into you. I will list them here:
Smiling at you
Preening (tossing, twirling or combing her hair)
Scratching the top of her hand
Exposing her neck
Positioning body facing towards you
Laughing at what you’re saying
Touching you
Sucking your dick
Assuming its always on and why you shouldn’t bother paying attention to them
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Part 14: Kino Escalation Ladder and Sexual Escalation Ladder Part B
Kino Escalation and Sexual Escalation
When ever you are talking about physical (kino) escalation I think the simplest way to get from no touching to touching is to follow an escalation latter. Basically slowly increasing touch from small things to increasingly larger things.
Escalation Ladder
Eye contact
Hand shaking
Accidental arm Brushing
Light touching with the back of your hand
Light touching with the front of your hand
Standing next to her with your arms touching
Holding hands
Arm in Arm
Front Facing Hugs
Standing with your legs touching lightly
Sitting with your legs touching
Lightly brushing her belly with you hand
Lightly touching her lower back with your palm
Pulling her in to hear you
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Part 14: Touching and Kino Part A
Legend:
When to touch
The sooner you start touching the better. When you open sets touch them lightly with the back of your hand. Keep it light and don’t escalate hard in front of her friends until you have won them over.
Edge:
When it comes to kino or touching, I think that the method has a lot to do with the man himself. It’s been said (and I agree) that if a guy is very masculine / manly-looking naturally and naturally appears dominate, he should not touch until she touches him. If the guy is skinny or has a more gentle, kind or effeminate face, he should touch as soon as possible.
Speaking from personal experience, I had a very young looking face through my early twenties. Plus, I was very skinny. Back then, I could touch a woman early in the interaction and it was fine. I noticed that after I started working out, putting on muscle and just generally maturing in my facial structure, my previously well-received early touching came across to the woman differently - this time as overly agressive. The only thing that had changed about me was my appearance really. My intent and demeanor was still the same.
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 It’s been a while since I’ve posted here. It’s been pretty crazy in my world and I haven’t been able to properly contribute the way I’ve wanted to. So, I wanted to come back with something great that you guys can use right after you finish reading this.
As I am watching the movie Pride, it made me think about your pursuit. In your pursuit of being better with women and becoming a better man, you need to build a foundation of pride, determination and resilience.
Pride. It is the firm feeling of pure satisfaction from your own achievements or from qualities that are widely appreciated. Take some pride in yourself and what you are looking to accomplish here. Your pride should one of the main things motivating you to push through your comfort zone and become successful in life and with women.
Think about it.
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Posted by: Legend in Inner Game, tags: Courage, Facing Fear, Inner Game, Need, Pride, PUA, Pua guru, Regret, Sean Messenger, Strength
 Do You know why you aren’t happy with women?
I know, finally, why I have never been, and why after spending my entire life puzzling over it, including a long stint as a “PUA” and observing how every other “PUA” was even more miserable than me, I’ve finally got the simple answer.
It’s not them. It’s you.
Specifically, it’s three things about you.
It is just three things.
Knowing what they are is good. But the problem is… knowing is not enough, because you cannot THINK your way out of them.
But you can fight. You can fight them like mortal enemies and defeat them.
Let that sink in. You know in your heart this is true.
And then there’s this: this is not the way it is supposed to be. This is not how you are supposed to feel.
You are a Warrior. A Lover. A Man. This is your birthright.
And mine. I have dedicated my life to doing whatever it takes to fight the Three Demons of Modern Man, for myself, and for you.
You deserve nothing less than Read the rest of this entry »
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 Seduction has a several uncomfortable moments, and the more you are capable to make those moments natural and comfortable for yourself and for girl, the more successful you will be in the end. One of those moments happens on very beginning and its: opening. Starting conversation with an unknown person. The more you are relaxed and confident into what you are doing, the more person, in this case girl or group of girls will be relaxed and happy to talk with you. There are several moments in process of seduction when you will feel that uncomfortable pressure. Be aware that if you feel that uncomfortable emotion, you can be sure she does it as well even more intensive. It all comes down to your skill of making it as smooth as possible.
The secret of best Playboys on this world is they make them feel comfortable and natural doing wild thing they would never do with any other guys.
One of crucial moments, where you will feel the biggest pressure is Closing the deal. Either getting her contact info, or going for a kiss, or taking her some and going for sex. That’s where lots of guys fail a lot, because they are not smooth enough.
Important rule to remember is that you have to keep that uncomfortable emotion inside her comfort zone. If the action you are doing is too much for her, and outside her comfort zone, she won’t be ok with doing it, and you won’t achieve anything. You will very easily be able to read how she feels through her negative body language. It doesn’t mean you failed, or you cannot do it, its just you have to find other way that will get you there by not stepping outside her comfort zone.
You should be always trying to find most comfortable way for her to give you number, to kiss you, or to take her panties off.
Kiss closes
This is one of crucial moments that you cannot miss. How many times you been on a date and everything was going perfect, and then was this time where you had to kiss her, felt it’s a time, but you were not sure, you waited, hesitated and then opportunity went away and you never got 2nd chance to kiss her. How many times that happened to you? How many times you were going home angry on yourself because you hesitated and let perfect opportunity fly away? How many girls you lost because of it?
This is one more of those moments in seduction where girl won’t do much to help you; she will be sitting there, enjoying her feeling being around you, and waiting from you to kiss her. It’s like they expect from you to read her thoughts and align your actions according to her. And that’s exactly what you have to do if you want to be good with girls. If you dedicated yourself to this game, and decide to become a good player, you will get to point where you will feel what they do feel; you will start to think as they do.
Actually, recognizing the moment when she wants to be kissed its much easier then you could ever imagined, you can actually feel it. The moment on date, when something triggers your thought to kiss her, and you start thinking should you kiss her or not that is the moment to kiss her.
Trust your instincts; they are way more experienced in seduction then your logic
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 I’ve been working on inner confidence extensively lately and its brought up some major issues. Mostly around internal mentalities on how I think society conditions us to think about success. Always affirming that one day we will be successful rock stars with out any work.
I’ve found in business and especially in self-improvement most people want others to take responsibility for their situation or their own personal self-improvement. Even I see myself doing it. Especially in the past putting my own in-action and blame on other people. Be it for motivation or having other people prod me to take action. I think especially in the community everyone is looking for a quick fix or some one to solve their problems.
People want some one else to hold them accountable, force them to go out, force them to talk to strangers, or get them going on a new project. Coach them through every step of the way. I see this over and over again. Only now do I see that I do it to an extent to. The first step to solving this I think is to realize its going on and to take full responsibility for yourself.
Sure its nice to have a wing man to force you into sets.
Sure its nice to have a buddy calling you up and dragging you out.
Sure its nice to have a specified path to follow to get where you want.
BUT
When it comes down to is actually doing it and doing it for yourself. You can be shown the way but it comes down to taking your own steps. BY YOUR SELF. Your guru can show you the door and point you in the right direction but what it comes down to is ONLY you can do it. This is your life! Your wing man won’t always be their for you. This paragraph won’t always be in front of you to motivate you Read the rest of this entry »
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Going along with our guest blogging, I’ve been in touch with BadBoy and he is going to be getting on board. Everyone get excited.
Don’t forget to encourage Sin to come out and post. 
Thoughts?
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 I think one thing that plays a central role in a man’s well-being is the degree to which he is operating within his own integrity.
I am not talking about ethics or telling the truth here (although I personally adhere to being straight-up, honest and telling the truth, generally speaking.)
What I am talking about is a man’s sense that he is in line with his “truth” - that is, his sense of who he is, what he believes in and being the man he wants to be in the world.
For me, when I am not living my life in a way that is truly on my terms and “selling-out” in some area, I feel foggy, unhappy and confused. When I am living life in a way that is within my terms, I feel great.
But I’m giving more vague terms… let me get at what I mean here. I’m not saying living life that looks how I want it to… I am saying living life in a way that I am not compromising my own beliefs and principles.
Let’s get specific…
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 The other night I was sitting in a corner booth with two girls at my favorite restaurant when the subject of body language came up. Trying to explain the nuts & bolts of this unwieldy, seemingly esoteric art of non-verbal communication to the both of them (in the most digestible way I could manage); I uncovered my best frame of transmitting it to others/all of you…so you can learn to master the subtle art too.
Basic Concepts below:
- Non-verbal communication makes up about 70% of all communication (which means that 30% verbal communication seems almost worthless). Of course, we still have to talk when the right time presents itself, but so much more value is being unconsciously perceived through non-verbal cues while you do the talking.
- Body language just doesn’t happen … but it’s reflected in everybody else around you. Ever know when somebody is approaching you from behind by sing the body language/expression of the person you’re talking to (before you turn around)? Well body language travels much faster than that … actually it travels in a fraction of a second. Any perceived event causes changes in body language. A perceived change in body language causes a change in body language. And so on. What you may find interesting is that in the old days of programming sports video games they used to put the basketball shooter in a sensor suit for human motion detection to monitor every motion he made when shooting baskets (for example: a jump shot). NOW … they put ALL the players on the basketball court in sensor suits (not just the shooter). The reason: when an action (such as shooting a basket) is done, it affects everybody on the basketball court. These changes could be the facing/alignment of their bodies, the direction of their feet, their emotions/dismay at losing or scoring points, etc. The point here is … you wouldn’t even have to see the ball hit the basket … you’d know it instantaneously by the anguish on your team mates face, etc. So realize that when you’re in a bar or some other closed setting, your movements (no matter how subtle/seen/unseen are affecting those around you (including your target).
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We are going to start having some new guest blogger’s from time to time. Our first one is going to be Sin. That’s right Mystery’s original wing and original co-instructor. He is the guy that taught Style ( Neil Strauss) in his first workshop. He has some great insights that no one in the community talks about. You guys know we rarely ever plug anyone here on PUE but I believe this guy has some amazing and unique value.
Addition / Update:
Edge: I think it’s going to be great.
Legend and I talked about it a few nights ago. There have been community figures that have reached out to us before to do a straight up product plug and we’ve refused. It’s just not worth compromising our integrity to make a few bucks.
What Legend is talking about here is giving community figures an opportunity to come on here and post up some articles with real, free exclusive content specifically for our audience. Then, after maybe a few articles or so, they may pitch about their latest project.
This way, the instructor gets to give value for free (which is the spirit of this site) and then give their message of what they want to promote afterward. The people who are interested can check it out and the people who aren’t can ignore it, but at least they’re not getting bombarded by marketing, banner ads, spammy newsletter installments, etc. I see this as an opportunity for some of the best and brightest in this area of self-improvement to contribute to making everyone’s lives better AND getting some publicity for their work (since we are one of the most highly trafficked blogs in the seduction community.
What are your thoughts of having some more guest bloggers?
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Posted by: Legend in Technique, tags: date logistics, dates, dating, day 2, day 2 game, day 2's, day two, day two's, getting started in game, Pick-up Guide
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Part 13: Dates , Day Two’s, and what to do on the date: Date logistics Part B
Legend:
What to do on the date
When I’m out with a girl it’s all about just having fun and getting to know each other. Slowly building up the sexual tension but mostly just talking about my passions and where I’m going in my life. This is usual in extreme turn on for them. I think a later article I will talk about how to have a plan where you’re going with your life. I think as men having a mission is equivalent to a girl having fake breasts.
Edge:
On a date, I have a general game plan. First, I have probably about 4 or 5 stories that I’ve told countless times that showcase a characteristic or quality about me without bragging or showing off. An example of this would be the time that I was walking down the street and was threatened at knife-point to give up my wallet. Not only did I refuse, but I also managed to escape a whole mob of the mugger’s buddies without even running or yelling for help. True story and it showcases that I have balls and I don’t take shit.
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 I’ve been trying to hash out the a real rock solid underlying system that can be applied to Pick-Up something that can be used in any situation and something that encompasses everything. I think its extremely important to realize where you are and what you want to achieve.
In Pick-Up there are really three main categories that everything seems to fall under. One being the comfort phase Comfort, the next being how much compliance you have, and finally how much attraction you have.
These three categories can be broken down into 3 parts each
Comfort:
1. Situational Comfort
2. Rapport / Connection Comfort
3. Sexual Comfort
The reason for splitting comfort into different stages is because there are specifically different forums of comfort that you need to use in different cases. Before you can even worry about attraction you have to have the girl comfortable enough to have a conversation ( Situational Comfort). If you want to form a powerful connection your going to need to run rapport comfort. Finally when you want to get physical with a girl you need to make sure that you create enough sexual comfort.
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Part 13: Dates and Day Two’s Part A
Legend:
Setting up the date / Day 2 / Day Two
For me setting up a day two (day 2) is very simple. I just asked them if they want to go out to a bar or to go swimming or come over and watch some cool TV show. The best way is to keep it simple and keep it either close to your apartment or close to her apartment. If it’s close she can go back and seal the deal. If your apartments are far away, it complicates it and can be much harder.
Edge:
I always set up my dates near my house. For multiple reasons, a girl may like you but may not want to take you back to her place even if she is insanely turned on by you. Maybe she has judgmental roommates. Maybe she has pictures of her ex-boyfriend all over her room. Maybe she’s just very private about her living space Read the rest of this entry »
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 Night Two:
Saturday night the weekend continued.
Sometime Logistics suck and this was probably the worse I have experienced in a long time. I went down to this party downtown bringing my FB/Pivot. Swanky apartment 20 guys 3 girls including the one I brought and man oh man one of them was super hot. They where both wearing matching boots outside their tight jeans. I think its the new fashion but it looks hot either way.
So I sit down.. thinking man oh man how am I going to do this.
Social Proof Power
I position myself with my pivot on the couch where the two girls can see. Clearly I am miles above everyone else since I have the pleasure of enjoying female company. Either way its only a matter of time. Especially in a party situation and not a bar. Also I can’t fuck up because there is no one else.
Timing is everything I sit there talking to my FB for a long time. The guy throwing the party comes over a few times and tells me I should have helped him plan it to get him more girls. He has been to my parties where its just me, Edge and 50 girls. Eventually the girls come and give me proximity and I open by telling them the both get the prize for having the coolest boots in the room. Insta hook and I make them laugh and one of them sits down next to me.
Now this is how I have been gaming lately. I try to talk about how every other guy is clueless compared to me and also I am starting to talk about sex. I don’t really know what I am doing yet but what ever it is its working. After awhile they both sit down and we talk for like an hour. They start telling me that the other guys are not even competition for me.
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